Where & When?
Cubbon Park, Bengaluru,2009.
It’s been a day since I posted a picture with two lines on peace. But for almost 24 hours I have been looking for a right opening line for this article.Now I am at this place where I am surrounded by people from all walks of life and I hear a multitude of conversations.
One conversation in particular has motivated me to start and finish this article I was planning to post.
There are so many people in the world today who are so distressed about life/career/relationships/financial crises. I often wish there is a magic wand to help them find peace. Well! I know it is foolish to want a magic wand for peace.
Life has taught me this about peace:
Comparison is the worst enemy for any human’s mental peace
Success is relative
And discussing and debating about ‘people’ is the lowest part of a person’s intellectual life.
(Intellectual life in my dictionary means the part of your life when you engage your intellect to work )
As a trained health care professional, I am particularly surprised when people ‘pay’ to start looking for peace.
Yeah! I know you are starting to get a list of organisations and companies that make money on selling common sense to people. :) I won’t list them.Like always, the same rule of anonymity I follow.No names please.
It is human to err and it is absolutely human to keep making errors till you correct yourself one fine day.
What results in loss of peace at any stage of adult human life is when you begin the analysis of those errors.According to me,a majority of people who never care to analyse the errors in their life are the ones who are living mediocre. It is because I see that they affect other people’s lives with their errors.It is not wrong to analyse an error. But what variables you choose to include in that analysis will be the ultimate guide for your peace.
The worst picks for analysis of an error would be :
Discussion of people involved in the error
The failure that surrounds the error
(Errors will not always end in failures!)
Rather the right variables to pick would be:
What were your investments?
Was the process well planned?
Were you able to learn from the results that you are currently holding in your hand?
I know in India, this is rarely taught. Most of the times, ‘success’ is equated to ‘victory'( again defined as superiority over your competitors). That is where all the progressive downward spiral in being peaceful starts.
Most of them who know me know that
I am not super wealthy(read money wealthy!)
I don’t wear brands for clothing and accessories
I don’t hang out and eat in expensive restaurants
They still know that
I am courageous in making my decisions
I rarely regret my life
I do often complain but very soon figure out a solution around my problems
I persist in the face of failure despite being teary and burnt out.
According to what life has taught me, if you can be all the above three lines, then you know how to find peace among chaos everyday.
What would it be if you answer all the choices in MCQs of an examination and expect to score full marks?
Anyone would call you a fool. Paying for Peace is very similar to that.
Trying to find peace is all about
Identifying and Isolating the things that disrupt your everyday life. When these two steps become regular variables in your equation to balance life, you will stop trying to find peace :) for you are already in peace with yourself.
That’s when you will tell someone,
Peace cannot be b’o’ught,
It can only be b’r’ought!